How to make him come back

Guys are strange creatures, they always want what they cant have. If you plan to make your ex boyfriend want you back, then you have got to make yourself tantalizingly unavailable to him. and to do this, you gotta be strong. But then, be sure you were at your best while you guys were together, unless you're lucky enough to eat your cake and have it...........

-The first thing you have to do is send a clear message that you have accepted the break up and you are now moving on with your life. if you have any of his belongings in your possession,, send them back . Do not deliver them in person.
The best way is to parcel them up and have them sent to him. Do not enclose any letters, he'll recognise the stuff and get the "i'v finished with you" messaqge loud and clear.
-Never call this guy. Never send lovesick messages through your friends. No text  messages, emails, nothing.....Ever! As difficult as it may seem, you gotta do it. i mean, anywhich way, there must be a  hurt. But then, most times, the best way to get people's attention is to stop giving yours.
-Until he calls you, keep all communications from him as brief as you can. Be friendly and polite but answer his questions as shortly as you can. "How are you?" "Fine, thanks. you?"
Never elaborate on what is happening in your life and dont act as if you're overly interested in what is happening with him either. if he's talking too much, politely cut him short. you can say your mum or boss is calling you or that you have another call waiting. Tell him that you'll get back to him but ofcourse,never ring him back. He has to feel that he's actually lost you.
-If you are going to be tantalizing to you ex boyfriend, then you do have to remain visible to him. Maintain same social circles and hang out at the usual places. When you go out,plan to have a very good time and genuinely have as much fun as you can. Let your ex see that you do not need him to enjoy yourself. Show him that your social life is on track,  but be decent about that. Please dont get drunk when you hang out. drunkenness will just say 'out of control' to your ex. He should see that you're in charge of yourself and your happiness.
-The key to getting your boyfriend back is feel good about yourself. One of the best ways women feel good is to look good. Make sure that anytime he sees you, you look fantastic. You'll have an extra confidence when you look good and he'll definitely notice.
An added bonus of looking good and exuding self confidence is that you'll attract attention from other people too. Your girlfriends will be full of compliments and the  guys willl be swarming like bees to honey. Your ex is bound to feel a twinge of jealousy and possibly regret too.
When you ex sees you in this new and positive light, he wont be able to help but try and reclaim what he instinctively feels is his territory. He wont be able to stand that the new and improved you could get taken by someone else if he doesnt act quickly.

The only question then will be, "Do i really want him back afterall?"

Getting over a lost Love

How do you get over someone when they do not feel the same way?????????????

• Firstly, accept that 'yeah i love this person'. You know why? because you can not heal a thing by saying its not there. Denial is a prison of self-deception. So you have to accept that.
•  Realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. If someone is not interested in you it is in your best interest to find someone who does love and adore you for who you are. Know that you are worth it, and there are plenty of people who love you. Never settle for someone who is not treating you and respecting you the way you deserve. That will mean you settling for less.
• In my case, I know I deserve the best. I tell myself "He isn't worth my love, he's too blind to realize what he's doing to me so I guess that's that. For crying out loud, I am Priceless. He doesnt know what he's missing and by the time he realizes, i'm far gone".
• It's not about getting over a person, it's about feeling good about yourself. It's about knowing that you are the most important and you need to be happy. If this other person doesn't feel the same way, it doesn't really matter. its such an unfortunate situation whereby you get to listen to no one but the you in you. So,'you' are the one that matter most here.
• Try and walk off. You'd wanna keep them around as friends but you can only stand on that if you're pretty strong and most times, this thing we call emotions are far more than the physical strength. Advice-Don't even give them the privilege of friendship because you'll suck yourself back into the delusion. Do things for yourself, keep busy, bury yourself in work and keep waiting for what you deserve. Don't do what I have done.
• It is strange when you are hurting from rejection, to hear someone say move on things will be fine. No matter how much you love him, he never loves you back. For all those wondering what went wrong Just stop wondering say it really aloud "HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO ME". Only when one stops chasing and pursing someone who doesn't love you, will you open the door to that perfect person who will love you back with the same intensity that you will love him.
• Try not to be in contact cos its almost like an addiction. You think that one little text or a call will do no harm but the pain when he doesn't reply or pickup your call will just make things worse. Tell yourself you're stronger than this.
• There is one more thing I can recommend. There are times when you feel very weak and feel you need to talk to that other person even though they may have just hurt you again, you don't know why you want to talk to them, you just do. Like i said, its like an addiction. I've been able to get by these weak moments by writing down exactly what I'm feeling at the time, it comes out in a jumble of feelings and thoughts, some not so pleasant, but in the end it actually helps and I don't feel to call the person.
• Actually, you cant get over someone you love just like that but trust me, you can try to move on and give space to fall in love again.

How to woo a Lady

Heeeeeey! its been a while. Sorry sweeties, been trying to get u guys the best. and guess what????? I've got it. A friend was telling me a friend of hers says he cant woo a girl. i refuse to accept that. Now let me say this: Any man can sweep a lady off her feet, no matter where, how or when. Now here are some tips. i know our guys can be so so rigid but believe me, this is easy if you really want that girl.
-Show interest, and show her that you would like to get to know her and you were happy to meet her or talk to her. Make sure you talk to her because I've noticed these days, guys do more staring than talking.
-Look into her eyes when speaking to her. this will make her see that you are really taking interest. just be careful not to get lost in her eyes when she's talking , otherwise the only thing you will have to respond with is "wow! you've got a pretty eyes". Believe me, she's tired of hearing the same thing from every other guy.
-Compliment her: Most guys are so rigid. Don't compliment her about her eyes,beauty, blablabla in the first meeting itself. Instead,compliment her on something not so obvious like "i like your co-ordination or composure" is much better than " you're so beautiful, are you a model? did heaven just loose an angel?" or you can be playful about it and say  " you've got nice eyes but mine are nicer"
-Don't ease the tension: What am i tryna say? Do not give  room for bore. once you make your good moves,  she may say  things like "i like you" or "you're funny". Most guys may loose their guard and say "i like you too". Don't! instead, ginger up the tension. Ask her if she"s flattering you just so you'll go home with her. Be a bit flirty but nice.
-Keep in touch: call her, text her but please, not necessarily everyday. So you don't become a pest.
-Be sensitive and caring. she doesn't always have to talk, most girls don't like to talk or ask, they just want you to be sensitive to their needs(emotional and financial). if you truly like the girl.,its no big deal to attend  to those.
-Lead the way: She wants to be the wooed and not do the wooing , so be the first to initial any touch(non-sexual and sexual), but please do not be in a hurry to initiate the touch. be the one that comes in first for the kiss.(most girls wouldn't mind coming in first for the kiss though). i must also warn that when you initiate the touch and she's not responding, be sensitive enough to stop. she will respect you for that. Never ask for ideas for what to do on the date.make plans and also have a back up plan. if she knows of something better, she will tell you, believe me. Let me say this too "once you get a girl to go on a first date with you, the rest is up to  you."
-Tease her- teasing a woman the right way demonstrates confidence and humor. for instance, if she's walking behind you as you enter a restaurant or  pub, turn around look at her sternly and say "stop following and staring at me". interpret anything she does,as if she's hitting on you. at a point, she might  give you the "what the hell does this guy think he is?". don't bother about that,just play your cards well.Whisper in her ears. Girls love this. She might act like "ew! whats this?" But when she goes home, she'll think about it.
-If you have little siblings, nieces or nephews, show her that you really care for them(at that time, she's thinking of how you'll take care of your own kids. hmm!) but don't make her feel if she finally dates you, you'll care for them more than her. play with  them, watch over and protect them, show the girl that they look up to you.
-Dress nicely: Guys please please and pleas try to look good. use an attractive cologne. if necessary, be very hygienic with her.
-Make her laugh : Girls love guys with a great sense of humor. That doesn't mean you shouldn't take anything seriously , or else, you'll come off as a clown.
-Always show appreciation.
-Give care for everything she says.

Now if all these don't work(it should though, except you are not doing your homework well), then you can leave your comment or email us here; pricelessgr8@yahoo.com .

Whats-up with my people? I know whats up-Valentine. I wish you guys a very nice and memorable one.
Told you all I'll be back with the "break up" medicine, u see, I'm back.
*FORGIVENESS- You need to forgive that person first because, that is the first stage in moving on. once you keep storing grudge for that person, you wont move ahead.
*KEEP YOUR SPACE- Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the break up. this means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no emails ,no text messages, no Facebook and no IMs- not necessarily as a permanent measure but until you feel that you can converse with him/her on a pure platonic level without an ulterior motive(and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive)
*COPE WITH THE PAIN APPROPRIATELY- its okay to feel you have messed up-accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. on the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person and that you did your best and you are not the only one who made  mistakes. Of course a stage of denial is completely natural but acceptance is the key to being able to start moving on.
*DEAL WITH THE HATE PHASE-  This is when you want to just scream because your rage feels boundless. The amount of anger you feel depends on how antagonistic the split was, the circumstance and how long it took to make the final break . you may resent your ex for wasting your time. you may even feel a lot of anger  towards yourself, but let go of that feeling FAST! its a waste of time and energy to rip yourself apart over something you longer have the power to change.
TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS- you need people around you,who love you and who will help you feel good about yourself. its not time to be alone on your bed thinking, its no time to keep singing to everyone  "please i need to be left alone", No. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, supportive , funny friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile person , and you'll find it easier to get steady in you feet again with your loved ones around you in a comforting net. But be wary of friends trying to connect you with another person immediately, its not what you need. You need to find yourself first.
REMOVE MEMORY TRIGGERS- They are all kinds of things that remind you of your ex- a thing, song, a smell, a sound, a place. Once the grieving period has had sometime to process, don't dwell on painful feelings or memories. They are probably things that are pushing your buttons without your conscious recognition. Try walking around each room in your house with a box and removing things that make your heart ache or your stomach turn. You don't have to dispose of them but put them away for now.
LET GO OF THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS- Understand that there is no benefit in holding on to heartache, regret and hatred towards another person. Realize that although it is over, your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways. You can congratulate yourself for being brave and taking the risk to fall in love and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.
REMIND YOURSELF OF THE PERSON'S NEGATIVE SIDES- Not necessarily all negative sides but the "turn-offs" of that person.

*Deep breathe* Wow! break up is really big. But  I'm sure these can help you stand on your feet in no time.

Breakup? its part of it abi? Breakups can be so rough and they can be amicable; no matter what, no one really wants to go through them.The loss of your relationship can bring on intense heartache. I mean, not all relationships are fortunate enough to end up in marriage,so if there's a break up, you try and move forward. i know i know, its not as easy as i say it but would you rather stay frustrated? No. As far as we know, the person you're killing yourself over might be hanging out and enjoying life. fighting to keep the relationship when the other person has given up long ago, does it make sense? i dont think so.
Besides, you should love yourself enough to realize that when someone doesnt love you, you should move on. we all have got our part to play. Time heals every wound but believe me, when true love finds you, it quickens the process. so stay beautiful/handsome,happy and good looking, so when true love finds you, it'll recognize you and not runaway.
I'm sure you would want to know how to get through with the break up. Now, stay in touch because i will be back with the medicine. Ciao

"its so good loving somebody when somebody when loves you back. its so good, needing somebody when somebody needs you back. its so good wanting somebody when somebody wants you back. to be in love and be loved in return is the only thing that my heart desires.just appreciate the little things i do, oh you're the one who's got me inspired,lifted me higher.............." *Just singing* Please don't mind me, thought it was already valentine but its not. At the same time it feels like the valentine is already here. Guys let me give one expo(please just for those who truly love their partners oh); No matter how mean or serious or 'i dont care attitude' your partner puts up, no mind am oh, that one na wash because every girl  loves a romantic and caring guy. stop taking these babes to pubs and spoiling their systems with so much liquor every valentine. come on, surprise her. she doesn't always need to be aware of what would happen that day. To the ladies too, how about you just do something different. it mustn't be singlet or boxers(na your bobo wear am pass?). What about you send someone to his office with something you know he's always wanted to get but due to time constraint, he cant get it? what about sending him lunch(his favorite meal, i mean, since its gon be a work day)? And back to the guys, who says she wants a blackberry porshe? pulease! very little things matter a lot and make us different more than we think or know. You can even send him/her a red cab to pick him/her from work after a hard day's job(that's if the money is there and your partner doesn't own a car)These are just tips but just in case you're  just confused about how you're gon make that day a good one for him or her, please drop your comments here or you can send a mail to pricelessgr8@yahoo.com, we would be very very pleased to make it better than it was before...........

Sup people? i hope you're enjoying "heartzmatz'? Well, lets look at life as it is............Meanwhile, its almost valentine, have you got him/her a gift? do you know where to take her?. Anyways, we'll get back to that. Like i said initially, this is gon be interactive but I'm not getting your contributions or questions or even comments. i guess you've got nothing to say for now. dey der nah, for me, i'v got plenty plenty things to say,hmmmmm! Life! Sup with your life? is it going as planned? Orrrrrr its falling apart? For me, i haven't got everything i want in life but I'm still very happy because my life is not the same as it was yesterday. Besides, there's a saying that goes this way "be grateful that you didn't have everything you want now. it means you have the opportunity to be happier tomorrow than you are today" Reason am nah. you cant have it all at once. Even God didn't create everything in one day, did He? You think you've got too much responsibility and everyone around you is depending on you; you should be thankful to God cos success and greatness comes with responsibility. But you've got a choice, give up the success and start depending on others and lets see how that goes. Nothing in life is easy,trust me. Anywhere you find yourself, just keep being strong and trusting God because He said His plans for us is  to prosper us and as we all know, He cant say what He cant do, He's not a man that He should lie.We should always be thankful for the bad things in life. For they open our eyes to the good things we were not paying attention to before. Lets make it better than before............

You wanna know if its trully Love? come on, check these out!
*You know its Love when no matter how mad that person makes you, you cant help but smile when you both make eye contact
*Love is putting up with somone's bad qualities
*A love without reasons? OMG! that is the most beautiful
*You just cant forget the one you love overnight, its either you love them or you never did. Love fades not dies
*When you love someone, thinking about them is just like breathing
*You know you're in love when your heart is making much sense than your mind
*Love is when you go through the hard trials of trust and sacrifices and still wake everymorning falling in love all over again
*When you cant hate them for breaking your heart, that's love
*Now if you think you're in love and you havnt felt stupid or foolish at a point,call it some other thing but not love

Love is more than just saying it a million times in a day. its more of action than words. if ypu trully love them, they'l know and if they claim not to, its cos they dont wanna take responsibility when the cookie crumbles.

Believe me,these can help you evaluate your relationship:
*Always understand your lady's silence cos it says it all
*Girls love it when you share your feelings, it doesnt make you less than a man,it makes you more attractive
*Remember, every relationship is bound to fall apart when you start keeping things to yourself
*Guys, if she likes being called 'beautiful', how abt telling her she is?
*Treat your woman like a queen; a man becomes a king when he realizes his lady is a queen and vice versa
*when you realize she's real, be real with her 100%. Real woman prefer an honest approach
*You cannot force what isnt meant to be oooooooooh. let it go
*Be careful what you take for granted cos there are alot waiting to appreciate it
*Sometimes, all she needs is a hug, so just shut up and hug her.
*Compliment your partner,tell them how beautiful/gorgeous they look cos if you dont, some other person will help you. the smallest things make the biggest difference.
*Guys, when you hug her, look into her eyes,then kiss her, she'l love that
*A mad jealous girlfriend does a better research than the FBI. Guys b careful with the games
*To the ladies, stay beautiful, sexy, focus, confident, classy and most of all, please stay very clean
*A simple lack of understanding and commnication can cause a great deal of relationship conflict
*There is no perfect relationship. if yours possesses 3 outtta 6 things you crave for, accomodate it.

And if you've got anymore contribution that can help, we'd be grateful.

Its almost Valentine. Hmmmmmmm! Do you know what to get for him/her? Or you're confused? Do you know where to take her to? Are you running outta ideas? Dont bother your head,just check us out on the 5th of february, we'l feed you with alotta ideas but just incase you need it before then, just indicate here. Lets make it better than before...............

LIFE: Life is all of it enveloped in one. Life is Love and Relationship. Life is the period of being alive, its the manner of lving.
We go though alot of things in life and that makes us think our life is worse than everyother person's., which gets us to worry and worry and worry. ut the funny part is "worry is only gong worsen things nt better them" Even the Holy book says "Which of you by taking thougt can add one cubit unto his stature?" Matt 6;27
God has made all things beautiful for us bt we unknowingly complicate them making our life a bit harder.
I'm not promising to make your life perfect here but i'm promising to make it lots easier and have you and i out of this ignorant pool we'v been swmming in. Life is not as hard as we see it. Life is easy, humanbeings are just compicated.

RELATIONSHIP: This the act of relating to other people in order to influence and help one another.Relationship helps us to show love care and tenderness to one another. There is relationship between God, Families and friends and the opposite sex. And in this concept, we are going to deal with relationship between the opposite sex.
What do i consider 'Relationship'?
Can there be Relationship without sex?
Why do i feel all alone in my Relationship?
When is the right time to be in a Relationship?
What kills Relationship?
These and many more are questions men snd women ask everyday and i'm sure we will be glad to get answers to this questions amd more. Have you decided to remain single because your friends' relationships are not working? Believe me, that is not a good reason 2 be single. i mean 'that a man got drowned in the river doesn't stop others from swimming' (if you know what i mean). Lets try and ,make it better than the one before.

Before we start all our chat,questions and gist, lets take a look at these concepts:
LOVE: This is a very powerful word, a powerful feeling and a powerful thought. it is the most sought after thing in the world, even if it hurts so badly . people ay it is the greates thing to ever feel. the feelimg that puts the other person's happiness and needs above yours. the feeling that is blimd to wrongs, disabililties amd faults. the only feeling that makes a king give up his throne, the feelimg that makes us do things that we could never even imagine. Then most times we get to ask questions like:
What is like to be in love?
Why ia love so important?
Does love have any limit?
What makes us fall in love?
Does prince charming exists?
Wouldn't it be mice to know the answer to all of these questions and even more? i know you're as curious as i am, so just bring it on; your questions, confusions and even contributions.

welcome everyone. This is HEARTZMATAZ. Heartzmataz is gon help us unveil the quintessential characteristics , ideologies, opinions, cofusions, dissatisfactions and indeed uncertainties bothering  around the concept of :
LOVE: As a very powerful feeling, LIFE: As a very mystery with itself and RELATIONSHIP: As a complex phenomenon that has left a lot of unanswered questions without answers. this site shall attempt to harmonize these three basic issues into one holistic chat(yeah! we're gon be chatting, you and i) that promises to be mindblowing, revealing, daring, hilarious, emotional and indeed very entertaining.  So, do have a problem with your relationship? Are you confused? You dont know if he/she loves you or not, Do u crave for a long lasting relationship?  Do want your man to always crave for you no matter how long you've been together?  Then Heartzmataz is the right place to be. Your Relationship, Our Interest! JUST STAY IN TOUCH. Thank you!