Whats-up with my people? I know whats up-Valentine. I wish you guys a very nice and memorable one.
Told you all I'll be back with the "break up" medicine, u see, I'm back.
*FORGIVENESS- You need to forgive that person first because, that is the first stage in moving on. once you keep storing grudge for that person, you wont move ahead.
*KEEP YOUR SPACE- Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the break up. this means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no emails ,no text messages, no Facebook and no IMs- not necessarily as a permanent measure but until you feel that you can converse with him/her on a pure platonic level without an ulterior motive(and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive)
*COPE WITH THE PAIN APPROPRIATELY- its okay to feel you have messed up-accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. on the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person and that you did your best and you are not the only one who made  mistakes. Of course a stage of denial is completely natural but acceptance is the key to being able to start moving on.
*DEAL WITH THE HATE PHASE-  This is when you want to just scream because your rage feels boundless. The amount of anger you feel depends on how antagonistic the split was, the circumstance and how long it took to make the final break . you may resent your ex for wasting your time. you may even feel a lot of anger  towards yourself, but let go of that feeling FAST! its a waste of time and energy to rip yourself apart over something you longer have the power to change.
TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS- you need people around you,who love you and who will help you feel good about yourself. its not time to be alone on your bed thinking, its no time to keep singing to everyone  "please i need to be left alone", No. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, supportive , funny friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile person , and you'll find it easier to get steady in you feet again with your loved ones around you in a comforting net. But be wary of friends trying to connect you with another person immediately, its not what you need. You need to find yourself first.
REMOVE MEMORY TRIGGERS- They are all kinds of things that remind you of your ex- a thing, song, a smell, a sound, a place. Once the grieving period has had sometime to process, don't dwell on painful feelings or memories. They are probably things that are pushing your buttons without your conscious recognition. Try walking around each room in your house with a box and removing things that make your heart ache or your stomach turn. You don't have to dispose of them but put them away for now.
LET GO OF THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS- Understand that there is no benefit in holding on to heartache, regret and hatred towards another person. Realize that although it is over, your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways. You can congratulate yourself for being brave and taking the risk to fall in love and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.
REMIND YOURSELF OF THE PERSON'S NEGATIVE SIDES- Not necessarily all negative sides but the "turn-offs" of that person.

*Deep breathe* Wow! break up is really big. But  I'm sure these can help you stand on your feet in no time.